§      Discuss specific behavior expectations.  Role model them.  Act them out so appropriate behaviors can be seen as well as what it looks like to see inappropriate behaviors. 

§      Develop a non-verbal cue for signaling when he/she is exhibiting the behavior.

§      Do not nag or threaten.

§      Be consistent.

§      Give directions in a variety of ways in order to increase the probability of understanding {make a chart or list}.

§      Develop a contract specifying what behavior is expected.

§      Positively reinforce.

§      Statements like “You get on my nerves”,   “Go on!”, or “Get out of here!” etc. cause children to have poor self-esteems.

§      Have family conferences to discuss problems and ways to develop solutions to solve those problems.   Develop a plan of action.

§      Encourage responsibility and accountability.  Do not make excuses or help your child ‘bail out’.   This only enables him/her.

§      Get involved with your child’s behavior at school. Request a conference and positively reinforce or remove reinforcement as needed. 

§      Work together with your child’s teacher as a team to provide success in helping with your child’s behavior.

§      Talk about appropriate ways of handling anger:  walking away, taking deep breaths, counting to 10 before reacting, using the “I feel….” statement, etc.

§      Talk about inappropriate ways of handling anger: tantrums, hitting, making rude comments, slamming items, rolling eyes, huffing, shrugging shoulders, etc.